How Writing Can Help Heal Pain After a Breakup
Many of us never consider ourselves to be writers, yet when faced with the pain of a breakup, a loss or even a death, sometimes writing helps. I've always enjoyed writing poems for different occasions and at times have had friends come to me to help them put something together for a boyfriend, ex boyfriend or even husband. It's sometimes very therapeutic to write what you feel. Here are a few tips that may help you as well.
1. Make a list:
Make a list of all the good things you admired about your ex and then on the other side write all the things you didn't like about your ex. Weighing all the pros and cons can help you put into perspective why the relationship may not have worked. When you really take the time to truly think about all the good and all the bad, you will also come to the conclusion that the breakup was probably for the best.
2. Write a letter:
Write a letter to your ex and let all of your feelings out. Tell them what you are feeling, how they made you feel about certain things, what made you mad, what made you sad, what made you happy, etc. Tell them every single thing you meant to say to them but maybe never had the chance. If you are still madly in love with your ex, put those feeling down in this letter. Once you are finished, read it through one last time and then burn it. That's right, don't send the letter or keep it. Burn it because it will help bring closure to the relationship and also get so many of those feelings off your chest.
3. Keep a journal:
A lot of people enjoy journaling just for the sake of sharing their feelings for that particular day or maybe they are constantly coming up with good ideas that they want to remember. Whatever the case may be, keep a journal and express how you feel on a daily basis. It's very therapeutic.
4. Write 10 things you love about yourself:
When we are going through hard times and especially a breakup, we always seem to lean more towards all the things that went wrong or what we may have thought we did to cause the breakup. Instead of dwelling on all the bad things, write down 10 things that you love about yourself. This can help in so many ways and the list will be there for those times you need to reflect. Perhaps you are a great friend, you are always there to help others or you always have a big smile on your face may be some things to add to your list. Those are great qualities to have and you can be proud of. Don't always dwell on what is bad; instead dwell on what is good.
These are just a few ways how writing can help heal pain after a breakup. I'm sure once you get started, you will be able to come up with other ways to help you heal as well.
1. Make a list:
Make a list of all the good things you admired about your ex and then on the other side write all the things you didn't like about your ex. Weighing all the pros and cons can help you put into perspective why the relationship may not have worked. When you really take the time to truly think about all the good and all the bad, you will also come to the conclusion that the breakup was probably for the best.
2. Write a letter:
Write a letter to your ex and let all of your feelings out. Tell them what you are feeling, how they made you feel about certain things, what made you mad, what made you sad, what made you happy, etc. Tell them every single thing you meant to say to them but maybe never had the chance. If you are still madly in love with your ex, put those feeling down in this letter. Once you are finished, read it through one last time and then burn it. That's right, don't send the letter or keep it. Burn it because it will help bring closure to the relationship and also get so many of those feelings off your chest.
3. Keep a journal:
A lot of people enjoy journaling just for the sake of sharing their feelings for that particular day or maybe they are constantly coming up with good ideas that they want to remember. Whatever the case may be, keep a journal and express how you feel on a daily basis. It's very therapeutic.
4. Write 10 things you love about yourself:
When we are going through hard times and especially a breakup, we always seem to lean more towards all the things that went wrong or what we may have thought we did to cause the breakup. Instead of dwelling on all the bad things, write down 10 things that you love about yourself. This can help in so many ways and the list will be there for those times you need to reflect. Perhaps you are a great friend, you are always there to help others or you always have a big smile on your face may be some things to add to your list. Those are great qualities to have and you can be proud of. Don't always dwell on what is bad; instead dwell on what is good.
These are just a few ways how writing can help heal pain after a breakup. I'm sure once you get started, you will be able to come up with other ways to help you heal as well.
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