Five Things You Shouldn"t Do In Getting An Ex Girlfriend Back
You've seen lots of articles talking about how to deal with ex-girlfriends in trying to get them back, and you've been taught key strategies in doing so.
But have any of these articles taught you which stupid, desperate acts to avoid? I am quite confident that none of these have taught you such things.
Below are some of the actions you think may be manly and necessary in getting an old relationship together, but in truth are detrimental and can only push your ex-girlfriend further and further away.
1) Don't Apologize for Every Single Thing Don't mistake this instruction - it is okay to apologize, but apologize strategically, and sparingly.
That means to say that you should only say sorry on the major issues that surround the relationship, not say sorry after the slightest misstep you make.
If you do that you will run the big risk of losing your ex-partner's respect and trust.
To effectively ask your ex-partner for forgiveness, recognize your faults, and then recognize hers.
That way you'll avoid the topics that will keep her on her toes, and you can focus on the things you should be apologizing about.
2) Don't Shower Your Ex with Gifts Do you know the real meaning between giving gifts to a person you like? It's to show appreciation.
Now, that objective is good - if you were still in the relationship.
But you've broken up now and your main task is to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and ask for another chance.
Measly gifts won't cut that.
However, if you feel like you need to present your partner with something, I suggest that you pick something sentimental and uniquely special to your relationship rather than just picking up the most expensive item on shop.
If you buy her something overly expensive she will think that you are trying to buy her love.
3) Don't Persuade Your Girl through Logic Men are beings of logic, so it's natural for us to justify any situation through logic.
We tend to overanalyze the roots of the breakup and think that we can solve it by thinking analytically.
Women, however, are a different case.
They approach any subject with respect to their emotions.
They are highly emotional, and hence you should appeal to their emotions rather than through reasoning with them.
4) Don't Be "Mr.
Nice Guy" Being nice and good and gullible is good - if you want to be treated nothing more than as a friend! It's just not a masculine approach in trying to get an ex-girlfriend back.
You need to be an Alpha Male in front of your lady, not some wimping "good guy" who obeys their partner's every whim.
5) Don't Hesitate to Ask for Help Even if you think you've got everything handled, you still have to hear what your friends and family have to say with your efforts.
They've seen your relationship with your ex and they are the better judge as to whether the relationship is something worth chasing or not.
Asking your friends what they think of the relationship is important as it may influence your feeling about the relationship, so it is best to listen to them.
But have any of these articles taught you which stupid, desperate acts to avoid? I am quite confident that none of these have taught you such things.
Below are some of the actions you think may be manly and necessary in getting an old relationship together, but in truth are detrimental and can only push your ex-girlfriend further and further away.
1) Don't Apologize for Every Single Thing Don't mistake this instruction - it is okay to apologize, but apologize strategically, and sparingly.
That means to say that you should only say sorry on the major issues that surround the relationship, not say sorry after the slightest misstep you make.
If you do that you will run the big risk of losing your ex-partner's respect and trust.
To effectively ask your ex-partner for forgiveness, recognize your faults, and then recognize hers.
That way you'll avoid the topics that will keep her on her toes, and you can focus on the things you should be apologizing about.
2) Don't Shower Your Ex with Gifts Do you know the real meaning between giving gifts to a person you like? It's to show appreciation.
Now, that objective is good - if you were still in the relationship.
But you've broken up now and your main task is to apologize, ask for forgiveness, and ask for another chance.
Measly gifts won't cut that.
However, if you feel like you need to present your partner with something, I suggest that you pick something sentimental and uniquely special to your relationship rather than just picking up the most expensive item on shop.
If you buy her something overly expensive she will think that you are trying to buy her love.
3) Don't Persuade Your Girl through Logic Men are beings of logic, so it's natural for us to justify any situation through logic.
We tend to overanalyze the roots of the breakup and think that we can solve it by thinking analytically.
Women, however, are a different case.
They approach any subject with respect to their emotions.
They are highly emotional, and hence you should appeal to their emotions rather than through reasoning with them.
4) Don't Be "Mr.
Nice Guy" Being nice and good and gullible is good - if you want to be treated nothing more than as a friend! It's just not a masculine approach in trying to get an ex-girlfriend back.
You need to be an Alpha Male in front of your lady, not some wimping "good guy" who obeys their partner's every whim.
5) Don't Hesitate to Ask for Help Even if you think you've got everything handled, you still have to hear what your friends and family have to say with your efforts.
They've seen your relationship with your ex and they are the better judge as to whether the relationship is something worth chasing or not.
Asking your friends what they think of the relationship is important as it may influence your feeling about the relationship, so it is best to listen to them.
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