In all likelihood you don't know what discombobulated means.
After all, this word is almost never being used.
In any case, its meaning is: "in a flap", "uncertain", "thrown off balance".
However, it isn't important that you know its meaning.
When do you feel discombobulated? When it comes to relationships, at times your partner might say or do something which leaves you bewildered, confused, uncertain, not sure, and you can't clearly state - not even to yourself - how you feel.
This is when you feel discombobulated.
Now, it isn't necessary for you to remember that word; nor is it necessary that you know its precise nuances.
It is only interesting to note that at times you feel something which you yourself can't put the finger on and can't explain (even though your partner might want you to clearly explain what you feel).
To prevent anger, frustration and hurt, it helps the relationship that the two of you become aware of it.
Why is it difficult at times to communicate your feelings to your partner? As much as it is helpful to be able to communicate with your partner whatever there is on your mind as well as be able to express your feelings, frustrations, and more, at times it isn't easy, maybe even impossible.
The reason being, language often isn't subtle enough to communicate, convey and explain what we feel.
This doesn't mean we don't have to try in order to keep the roads of communication open with our partner.
Also, there is no reason for us to "use" the excuse of "language can't explain what I feel" for not communicating with our partner.
The best case scenario is that both partners understand that as much as they would love to always share their feelings with one another, at times the feelings are somewhat discombobulated and can't be explained.
The positive side of this all is, that when you and your partner are sensitive to your own and to each other's feelings, the more able you are to share your joys and sorrows with one another.
It then also becomes possible, when necessary, to communicate to one another your inability to "precisely" characterize and explain what you feel; and that is fine.
How to reduce the risk of misunderstanding? Partners might enter conflicts and arguments due to such misunderstanding.
And such a risk increases when emotions are involved - especially in times of stress, uncertainty about one situation or another, a decision that needs to be made or something unfortunate that happens to any one of you or both.
Understanding and accepting the fact that at times emotions can't be clearly explained helps partners accept each other's ambiguity, knowing that such ambiguity is, by no means, an attempt to not disclose everything, but rather an inability to clearly "translate" an emotion into words.
Becoming aware of the difficulty in always defining and explaining emotions Awareness of the difficulty in always defining and explaining emotions - to yourself as well as to your partner - is vital.
It help the two of you don't get hurt when either one of you doesn't find "the right words", when either one of you (or both) feel discombobulated about one situation or another.
Allowing the partner time to get in touch with his/her emotions is crucial When your relationship is build on trust - trusting one another and believing that it is not a matter of wanting to disguise the feeling, but rather a matter of not knowing precisely which words to use in order to define and describe it - you can then accept those situations when either one of you feels discombobulatedand "unable" to describe and clarify what he/she feels.
For the sake of a healthy relationship it is then important to be patient, and rather than demanding the partner to explain what he/she feels allowing the partner to take the time to digest the emotions he/she experiences, come to terms with them and become able to communicate whichever feelings these are to the partner.