"Tis Time I Brush Up My Knowledge of Old Friend Dale Carnegie
Those days were entirely different in the 70's through early 80's regarding public etiquette and friendships.
Words like "Sorry", "Excuse me", "Thanks" and "Glad to meet you" were more lively than they are today.
I am not complaining.
I have full idea about how fast this world is moving beyond the comprehension of an old man like me.
I am 66.
I was a faculty member on the board of Jaycees in Karnataka during the first half of 1980's I used to conduct courses and workshops on Human Relationship.
I had gathered a lot of material apart from the literature supplied by the organization.
A word about Jaycees International may help.
It is an organization to which personal development is primary.
Social work comes next.
In fact most of the social work involved practical personal development lessons.
There was age limit to members - 18 to 40.
Above 40, one may continue the membership sans voting rights.
It was a little before reaching the upper limit that I attended 'Trainers' Training Courses' and started conducting courses and day long workshops in different places in Karnataka.
Dale Carnegie's "How To Win Friends And Influence People" was like Bible to me among other books such as "I'm OK, you're OK" by Dr.
Thomas Harris.
Dale's book was almost a work of research.
Written probably in the 2nd or 3rd decade of the twentieth century, this book is relevant even today, still an authority on how to make real time friends.
Simple things like the words I mentioned in the beginning, sometime do miracles.
A simple whole hearted "sorry" may make wonders, may avoid serious altercations in public.
A "sorry" without slightest delay but with real concern may earn a great friendship.
Suppose you step on some body's foot in a railway compartment, an immediate heartfelt "sorry" may result in "Oh, its OK" with a smile.
And an "excuse me" with a sweet smile will ensure smooth sailing for you in a crowded place.
A "thanks" for any favor however small sometime pay rich dividends.
Caution should be taken that whenever you use these words of etiquette should not artificial, superficial or just mechanical, for, these words without life indicates arrogance and result very adversely.
I have quite a few friends on Internet.
The first friendship I earned was a woman from Delhi in the year 2000 soon after I acquired a PC with Internet connection.
The friendship was developed so well that we even discussed personal problems.
We are still exchanging mails.
This woman is just 5 years my junior.
After this first experience on Internet, I made friendship with many, both men and women and most of them are above 50 years of age.
Acquire a copy of Dale Carnegie book "How To Win Friends And Influence People".
It is still available in the news stands.
"I'm OK; You're OK" is an analysis of why people talk the way they do.
Thomas Harris has evolved a new psychological concept to analyze human reactions to stimuli.
Very interesting and if studied well, I am sure your friendship skills will greatly improve.
This book too, I think is still selling.
These two books greatly helped me during my time and I don't see any reason why it shouldn't help you.
Words like "Sorry", "Excuse me", "Thanks" and "Glad to meet you" were more lively than they are today.
I am not complaining.
I have full idea about how fast this world is moving beyond the comprehension of an old man like me.
I am 66.
I was a faculty member on the board of Jaycees in Karnataka during the first half of 1980's I used to conduct courses and workshops on Human Relationship.
I had gathered a lot of material apart from the literature supplied by the organization.
A word about Jaycees International may help.
It is an organization to which personal development is primary.
Social work comes next.
In fact most of the social work involved practical personal development lessons.
There was age limit to members - 18 to 40.
Above 40, one may continue the membership sans voting rights.
It was a little before reaching the upper limit that I attended 'Trainers' Training Courses' and started conducting courses and day long workshops in different places in Karnataka.
Dale Carnegie's "How To Win Friends And Influence People" was like Bible to me among other books such as "I'm OK, you're OK" by Dr.
Thomas Harris.
Dale's book was almost a work of research.
Written probably in the 2nd or 3rd decade of the twentieth century, this book is relevant even today, still an authority on how to make real time friends.
Simple things like the words I mentioned in the beginning, sometime do miracles.
A simple whole hearted "sorry" may make wonders, may avoid serious altercations in public.
A "sorry" without slightest delay but with real concern may earn a great friendship.
Suppose you step on some body's foot in a railway compartment, an immediate heartfelt "sorry" may result in "Oh, its OK" with a smile.
And an "excuse me" with a sweet smile will ensure smooth sailing for you in a crowded place.
A "thanks" for any favor however small sometime pay rich dividends.
Caution should be taken that whenever you use these words of etiquette should not artificial, superficial or just mechanical, for, these words without life indicates arrogance and result very adversely.
I have quite a few friends on Internet.
The first friendship I earned was a woman from Delhi in the year 2000 soon after I acquired a PC with Internet connection.
The friendship was developed so well that we even discussed personal problems.
We are still exchanging mails.
This woman is just 5 years my junior.
After this first experience on Internet, I made friendship with many, both men and women and most of them are above 50 years of age.
Acquire a copy of Dale Carnegie book "How To Win Friends And Influence People".
It is still available in the news stands.
"I'm OK; You're OK" is an analysis of why people talk the way they do.
Thomas Harris has evolved a new psychological concept to analyze human reactions to stimuli.
Very interesting and if studied well, I am sure your friendship skills will greatly improve.
This book too, I think is still selling.
These two books greatly helped me during my time and I don't see any reason why it shouldn't help you.
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