Getting Your Girlfriend Back Without Looking Desperate
Getting your girlfriend back can be a tough thing to do; it's not going to be made any easier by spur of the moment decisions or actions.
Was it your fault or hers? This makes a big difference to getting her back, but the outcome should still be the same.
In this situation both people are guilty of over analyzing the situation, if you try to relax things will happen a lot smoother.
During a break up there is always a lot of "he did" "she did" this isn't helpful, this is childish bickering which will drive her further away.
If you have done something wrong then admit it, playing the blame game is not going to score you any points, in fact, if you try and shift the blame you will make what ever it is look like it was her fault in which case she will probably never want to speak to you again.
Was it her fault? If it was then this is where you can really shine through.
If she has dumped you for another guy and you still want her back, she wouldn't know what to say to a comment like "I'm sorry, I've been a real pain lately which is probably why you went to him, but if you come back I will try and be more supportive".
A statement like this is what separates the men from the boys, in your mind you know that there is never any reason for cheating, but in your heart you love her so much that you are willing to try and make a go of things.
Whatever the situation may be, there is always a possibility of repairing a relationship as long as you work things through before you implement them.
If you have a plan of action which is correctly worked out you could have her back sooner than you think.
So if getting your girlfriend back is what you truly want, make sure that you are going to listen to her side of the story.
Your feelings come in second place (except the feelings of love) and you should only express any concerns if she asks you to, but keep them to a minimum, if you reel of a list of concerns she is going to wonder why you want her back and start getting cold feet.
If you feel the urge to go out and get drunk, that's fine, just leave your cell phone at home to avoid any impulses to ring her when you've had a few.
You may feel like your insides have been stomped on and your heart is breaking right now but you have to do things properly.
If you try rushing the reunion without the right guidance you stand a very big chance of driving her further away.
Was it your fault or hers? This makes a big difference to getting her back, but the outcome should still be the same.
In this situation both people are guilty of over analyzing the situation, if you try to relax things will happen a lot smoother.
During a break up there is always a lot of "he did" "she did" this isn't helpful, this is childish bickering which will drive her further away.
If you have done something wrong then admit it, playing the blame game is not going to score you any points, in fact, if you try and shift the blame you will make what ever it is look like it was her fault in which case she will probably never want to speak to you again.
Was it her fault? If it was then this is where you can really shine through.
If she has dumped you for another guy and you still want her back, she wouldn't know what to say to a comment like "I'm sorry, I've been a real pain lately which is probably why you went to him, but if you come back I will try and be more supportive".
A statement like this is what separates the men from the boys, in your mind you know that there is never any reason for cheating, but in your heart you love her so much that you are willing to try and make a go of things.
Whatever the situation may be, there is always a possibility of repairing a relationship as long as you work things through before you implement them.
If you have a plan of action which is correctly worked out you could have her back sooner than you think.
So if getting your girlfriend back is what you truly want, make sure that you are going to listen to her side of the story.
Your feelings come in second place (except the feelings of love) and you should only express any concerns if she asks you to, but keep them to a minimum, if you reel of a list of concerns she is going to wonder why you want her back and start getting cold feet.
If you feel the urge to go out and get drunk, that's fine, just leave your cell phone at home to avoid any impulses to ring her when you've had a few.
You may feel like your insides have been stomped on and your heart is breaking right now but you have to do things properly.
If you try rushing the reunion without the right guidance you stand a very big chance of driving her further away.
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