Enduring a breakup can be one of the most difficult times in your life.
When the person you love more than anything else just up and decides to leave you on your own, it really hurts.
A lot of people just give up, but that's the last thing you should do.
Now is the perfect time to turn your life around! There IS more to life than just your ex...
and if you pull yourself together and realize that, you just may have a good shot of getting him or her back!The process isn't easy, but it can be summed up into three fairly simple stages: finding what was wrong, fixing what was wrong, and showing your ex that you've fixed it.
Sound too easy?Well, there's a little more to it, but not much.
When I say "thinking about what went wrong," I don't mean sitting on your couch with a gallon of Ben & Jerry's sobbing about how much of a screwup you are for letting your ex slip away.
It's overdramatic, and doesn't solve anything.
What you need to do is figure out what actually caused the breakup.
Two of the most common culprits is when you weren't meeting your ex's relationship needs or if you had some particular behavior that was driving your ex away.
Both of these can be lethal to even a very close relationship, but sadly they do happen, and it makes sense that they can be showstoppers.
I mean, who would stay with a person who was actively driving him or her away?Who would let themselves be stuck in a relationship that just wasn't fulfilling their needs?It's harsh, but true.
At this point, you have to look over your relationship and see what you were doing wrong.
Really analyze yourself and your behavior, and find the problem.
Once you've figured out what you were doing to make your ex want to leave, you can get to work fixing it.
Remember this, too: no matter how flawed you think your ex may have been, you can't worry about the problems he or she caused.
The only things you can change are the things that you personally are responsible for.
Don't waste your time and energy thinking about how much your ex needs to change, just work on yourself.
It's not an easy road, but a necessary one if you want to get your life on track again.
You may have some difficulties with it, but through a few sacrifices and compromises, you'll get there...
and once you do, you'll find that your life is a lot better.
Once you've done all you can to get yourself in top relationship shape, the time comes to talk to your ex for the first time.
Always remember that the first contact is very light and simple.
You should be calling or emailing to see how he/she is doing, not to talk about feelings or the failed relationship.
It's a sign of consideration, that you care about how he/she's doing.
Don't overdo it, or you'll scare your ex off.
If you play your cards right, you'll be able to slowly build up contact again, up until the point when the two of you are spending a little time together.
During this time, you need to continue to keep it light, and just let the work you've done on yourself speak for itself.
If you've done your job well, you have a great chance that your ex will notice and start to take a little more interest again.
If you're looking for an easy, sure-fire method of getting your ex back that erases the past and doesn't require any effort on your part, I'm here to tell you that it doesn't exist.
You'll have to work pretty hard, and you'll have to do it for yourself.
Who you were can't be who you continue to be, not if you want your second chance to work out any better than the first...
and it's true that this may not even end in getting back together with your ex.
However, if you really put yourself into this, you'll find that your life drastically changes, and you like the new person you are...
and what's more, others will like it too.
There is life after ex, and a lot of people to live it with.