Are you dying to get your ex boyfriend back without looking or acting desperate? Sure, it is possible, but you have to be careful how you approach the situation so that you don't push him further away.
One of the main mistakes women make in this kind of situation is getting too much advice and trying to apply it all at the same time.
So, here are some tips that you can use that will help you get started winning your ex boyfriend back without resorting to desperation.
Don't Try to Rush One of the most important things to do right after a break up is to give both yourself and your ex some time to cool off.
Emotions are running high and there is too much of a risk that the two of you will just get into another fight and make matters worse.
It's important to avoid this, so let a little time pass.
You may feel the need to start sending them dozens of text messages trying to smooth things over or sort things out.
Once you've had a few days to think things over you'll see this is a bad way to start over.
So, don't worry about trying to contact your ex until you've at the least let your emotions stabilize.
When you first talk to your ex boyfriend again you will want to be able to present an attractive and calm demeanor, which he will certainly find attractive.
The best way to find this state is to understand why you broke up in the first place.
Perhaps you had grown accustomed to the relationship and had begun to take him for granted? Consider how the relationship was when you first met to the way things were going when you broke up.
If you can see how you were at the beginning of the relationship and what caused his attraction to you, you'll be able to apply that here to win him back.
Rekindle Mutual Internets Once again, understanding what caused the initial spark in the relationship and his attraction to you will be a great advantage to get him back.
There was surely some activity that you both enjoyed together and now is the time to check it out again.
Whether it was rock climbing or going to the concerts of your favorite band this activity will remind him of when the relationship was fresh and give you an excuse to meet up.
If you know of a hangout that he frequents you could "accidentally" bump into him there and have a conversation.
Take Things Slow Even after you have started talking again and are working things out don't feel that you have to try and rush to solve every problem and make things perfect.
Relationships are complicated and it will take some time for the two of you to sort out your problems.
But, if you really care then it is well worth the time and effort required to make things work again.
Just keep in mind that you don't want to pester them by sending too much at once.
Remaining calm and taking things one step at a time, especially at the beginning, will allow you to sort things out without overwhelming each other and having your make up backfire.
One thing to avoid, however, is trying to make him jealous.
Don't play at dating around or seeing other people if you are serious about getting your ex boyfriend back.
He will likely take it seriously and won't be interested in getting back together with you.
If you keep these tips in mind you should be well on your way to getting your ex boyfriend back.