STOP Obsessing Over Him And Bring Him Closer
Imagine having a fulfilling and committed relationship, but without experiencing anxiety and insecurity, without all of the worry.
Imagine enjoying a passionate connection without feeling obsessed with your man, without having to push your relationship in any particular direction by yourself.
Picture it! No more sleepless nights, no more fears or uncertainties about where your relationship is going...
Can you imagine that? Most relationships start out with enthusiasm, with endless conversations full of magic moments in which we feel a deep connection, an attraction to this person, as we fall in love.
We wonder how it is even possible to feel such a connection with someone we've just met.
When we, as women, begin to feel this sort of compatibility, we start to offer everything - our bodies, our hearts - to this man, as if all of our happiness depends upon him.
Here, we see that the more we invest in this relationship, the more he withdraws and the less he participates.
There is less communication and less interaction between us.
Gradually, he spends a reduced amount of time with us, and slowly, the intensity and intimacy within our relationship begin to fade away.
While he doesn't necessarily quit on the relationship, we can feel that something ugly is about to happen.
Obsessively, we start asking ourselves why this happened.
What have we done wrong, what can we do to bring him back? How can we change ourselves to better please him? We are overwhelmed with all sorts of fearful and guilty thoughts.
The BAD NEWS is that when we do these things, when we put all of our energy into him and cannot find peace and happiness without him, something dangerous is happening: We forget about ourselves.
When a woman is not paying attention to her needs and feelings, she is signalling clinginess, dependence and intense, dramatic, negative vibes.
These are the "messages" that men pick up from us which drive them further and further away.
Imagine that you are covered in an invisible balloon of negative energy, and even if you fake a million-dollar smile, men can pick up on this instantly.
The GOOD NEWS is that you can change this vibe if you learn a few key secrets that you can apply to your relationship.
How do you help the man you love consider himself the luckiest man on earth? How do you help him share your love and become certain that YOU are the one for him? Let's say you have just met a man, and you like him very much and are already dreaming about being in a relationship with him.
What do you do then? Do you put a lot of effort into demonstrating to him that you are THE ONE, that you are special? Well, You better NOT.
The most fascinating power of a woman is that she can get the admiration, passion, and commitment she needs from a man without any effort at all.
She can get all of this by being herself and NOT DOING anything.
Does it sound strange, even dreamlike? This is the big secret: In order to get the love and attention you want from a man, you do NOTHING.
It doesn't matter what you do, but who YOU ARE! After meeting a man we like, we women just DO, DO, DO whatever we can to show him how special we are.
We work like mad for him, doing errands and planning outings, or organizing big surprises for him.
We cook, and, more than that, we accept plans and everything else he wants, even if we feel uncomfortable with them - all to make him happy.
Every woman has a masculine and a feminine energy.
Every time we want to DO something for a man, we activate this masculine vibe.
This is called over-functioning, and it doesn't work in romantic relationships with a man.
A man doesn't want to interact with another man that is disguised as the woman he likes.
This is the dynamic of relationships, even if it sounds unusual to us as women.
The only way to connect to a man's heart is to function within your feminine energy when you are around your man.
Our feminine energy is reflected in what we are, not in what we do.
When you're with a man and living in the moment, enjoying both his presence and his company, you immediately switch to your natural feminine state.
He will be relaxed and happy to act in his masculine energy around you.
In order to accomplish that, you have to be open to receive.
Be thankful and enjoy every moment spent together.
Let your femininity shine, Violetta
Imagine enjoying a passionate connection without feeling obsessed with your man, without having to push your relationship in any particular direction by yourself.
Picture it! No more sleepless nights, no more fears or uncertainties about where your relationship is going...
Can you imagine that? Most relationships start out with enthusiasm, with endless conversations full of magic moments in which we feel a deep connection, an attraction to this person, as we fall in love.
We wonder how it is even possible to feel such a connection with someone we've just met.
When we, as women, begin to feel this sort of compatibility, we start to offer everything - our bodies, our hearts - to this man, as if all of our happiness depends upon him.
Here, we see that the more we invest in this relationship, the more he withdraws and the less he participates.
There is less communication and less interaction between us.
Gradually, he spends a reduced amount of time with us, and slowly, the intensity and intimacy within our relationship begin to fade away.
While he doesn't necessarily quit on the relationship, we can feel that something ugly is about to happen.
Obsessively, we start asking ourselves why this happened.
What have we done wrong, what can we do to bring him back? How can we change ourselves to better please him? We are overwhelmed with all sorts of fearful and guilty thoughts.
The BAD NEWS is that when we do these things, when we put all of our energy into him and cannot find peace and happiness without him, something dangerous is happening: We forget about ourselves.
When a woman is not paying attention to her needs and feelings, she is signalling clinginess, dependence and intense, dramatic, negative vibes.
These are the "messages" that men pick up from us which drive them further and further away.
Imagine that you are covered in an invisible balloon of negative energy, and even if you fake a million-dollar smile, men can pick up on this instantly.
The GOOD NEWS is that you can change this vibe if you learn a few key secrets that you can apply to your relationship.
How do you help the man you love consider himself the luckiest man on earth? How do you help him share your love and become certain that YOU are the one for him? Let's say you have just met a man, and you like him very much and are already dreaming about being in a relationship with him.
What do you do then? Do you put a lot of effort into demonstrating to him that you are THE ONE, that you are special? Well, You better NOT.
The most fascinating power of a woman is that she can get the admiration, passion, and commitment she needs from a man without any effort at all.
She can get all of this by being herself and NOT DOING anything.
Does it sound strange, even dreamlike? This is the big secret: In order to get the love and attention you want from a man, you do NOTHING.
It doesn't matter what you do, but who YOU ARE! After meeting a man we like, we women just DO, DO, DO whatever we can to show him how special we are.
We work like mad for him, doing errands and planning outings, or organizing big surprises for him.
We cook, and, more than that, we accept plans and everything else he wants, even if we feel uncomfortable with them - all to make him happy.
Every woman has a masculine and a feminine energy.
Every time we want to DO something for a man, we activate this masculine vibe.
This is called over-functioning, and it doesn't work in romantic relationships with a man.
A man doesn't want to interact with another man that is disguised as the woman he likes.
This is the dynamic of relationships, even if it sounds unusual to us as women.
The only way to connect to a man's heart is to function within your feminine energy when you are around your man.
Our feminine energy is reflected in what we are, not in what we do.
When you're with a man and living in the moment, enjoying both his presence and his company, you immediately switch to your natural feminine state.
He will be relaxed and happy to act in his masculine energy around you.
In order to accomplish that, you have to be open to receive.
Be thankful and enjoy every moment spent together.
Let your femininity shine, Violetta
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